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Is It Too Soon for Sex Talk?

14 Friday Apr 2017

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Here is a question, answered by Tara Richter, that will always be relevant in the realm of dating —

Seriously? I know we’re not living in the 1800’s, but come on. Why does there need to be sexual conversations within 3 hours of meeting someone? Unless you are soliciting a prostitute, there’s no reason to talk about how someone is in bed. Especially when they haven’t even met you in person yet! I could be 6ft 300 lb woman, you have no idea. You could be a troll. Why would I want to have sexual conversations with a stranger whom I don’t even know if I’m attracted to yet? I personally think it’s rude and distasteful.  After chatting over a few emails online and then texts for 3 hours, is not enough time to ask if I can keep up with you in the bedroom.  The only time to talk about sex is once you are in a committed relationship actually having sex! Then there’s something to talk about.

This question is all too common when you are trying to make your way in the internet dating jungle. If it feels like it is too soon, or too uncomfortable — DON’T. That goes for anything in a relationship.

Get your copy of 10 Rules to Survive the Internet Dating Jungle today to start the process before you get back into the jungle!

Stop Making Demands & Start Making CHANGES

29 Wednesday Mar 2017

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The new craze that is taking over social networks – making a list of everything you want in a partner. Making demands like being over six foot, having a new model car, owning a home and making six figures is what women are demanding out of their potential mate. Are we allowed to make these demands when we aren’t being the best versions of ourselves?

Reality Check

Before you jump on a dating site and make a list of your demands of your ideal partner, take a good look in the mirror. Are you doing everything to make you something to be desired? What are you bringing to the table? How can you match certain traits that you’re demanding.

Everyone needs to be realistic when it comes to what someone else can offer. When you do find love, your needs will be met in ways that you might have never expected. But it’s being open to the possibilities rather than being close minded and demanding.

Don’t Compare

Easier said than done, but when it comes to relationships, try to avoid comparing your situation with someone else’s. Everyone loves differently, and everyone fulfills certain needs in relationships in different ways. The grass will always be greener on the other side – until you find someone that is right for you. If you are constantly comparing your partner to someone else or wishing your situation was different, you may not be ready for a relationship. You have to be happy with yourself first, and then you will be ready to love again.

The Cheating Curve

21 Tuesday Mar 2017

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The cheating curve, is texting cheating? Kissing? Sleeping with someone else while you’re casually seeing someone? In order to be in a healthy relationship you need to have a personal guideline to follow. If you don’t have one, Dating Jungle is here to help —

You’re exclusive and have been dating for 3 months, how do you feel now? Is your relationship continually budding and the more you get to know this person the more you fall in love with them? Or are you now second guessing yourself, their actions and not sure if you can go the distance with them? The 3 month mark is another dating milestone. If you are having doubts at this point in the game or have already lost that “honeymoon stage” feeling, it’s probably time to move on. You should first address your concerns with your partner. See if they are legit or just manufactured insecurities you have within yourself. Such as do you really want to get married and have kids and your lover doesn’t? That’s a major life decision and if you two are at a crossroads now, it’s not going to get better with time. These are big decisions, yet you should be on the same path. If you know this person isn’t the one to go the distance with, it’s better to cut it off now while the relationship is still new and feelings won’t be too hurt. When you’re spending time with Mr. Wrong or Mr. OK For Now, you are losing time to find Mr. Right For You.  There’s also nothing wrong with being completely honest in what you want out of a partner and life. Just because you say you want kids as an option, doesn’t mean you are pressuring him to commit and have kids right now. You just want to let him know this is what you want & you want a partner who wants the same in the future.

3 strikes you’re out: This is a rule I created in my first book, “10 Rules to Survive the Dating Jungle”.  This you can utilize during anytime in the dating process as a weeding out tool. It’s basically to pick out negative behaviors. If the person you’re dating is displaying strange demeanor or does something that makes you second guess yourself, keep track in your head or on a piece of paper. For instance if a guy/ girl cancels a date at the very last minute, strike 1. Things happen, plans change, no biggie.  Yet, if it happens a 2nd time they are walking on thin ice, it happens a 3rd time, buh bye, 3 strikes you’re out! That other person obviously doesn’t value you or your time. Why would you want to be with someone who takes you for granted? This rule also helps you establish your boundaries so people don’t walk all over you. Sometimes you don’t even need 3 strikes to throw them out of the game. For instance, lying and or cheating. 1st time cheating your out! Lying is also a very bad trait. If you catch them once in the act, identify it, call them out on it. 2nd time do the same again & warn them you don’t deal with liars. The next time you’re done with them. You’ve established you’re boundaries and ground rules and they know. 3rd time they lie, stick to your guns and dump their ass. You deserve to be with someone who loves you and treats you with respect & lying is neither of those qualities. I’m sure they will beg you to forgive them, yet if a person does something 3 times it’s in their DNA & most likely won’t change.  Save yourself the heartache and move on.

Make use of the Dating Rule of 3 to help you navigate the dating jungle and find the right one for you!

All of this cheating talk makes me think of this Sex & the City episode, enjoy the scandal:

Pros and Cons List for your Potential Match

07 Wednesday Sep 2016

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Say you’ve dated someone for maybe just a few dates and are not sure about them quite yet. Or perhaps you’ve been dating for 6 months, or maybe you’ve been married for a couple of years, and things are starting to get rocky. Do I stay and work it out or do I leave? When you get stuck in the situation, sit down some place quiet. pros-cons1

Get a blank piece of paper and pen. Fold the paper in half the long way, and then write on the left side “Good” and on the right “Bad.” On the “Good” side, write down all of the qualities of the person for whom you are having doubts, such as attentive, affectionate, intelligent, listens, likes to travel. Any quality that you think is a good quality that you want in a partner. Then on the “Bad” side, write down qualities that you don’t like so much about them. Examples: He has wandering eyes, lies, disrespects you, still hands out with his ex, et cetera … any quality that you don’t like.

Try to stay away from superficial qualities. I know those can be good or bad qualities, but try to stay focused on actual behaviors, characteristics and qualities in the person.

Hoping that your pros and cons list ends like Miranda’s does —