Getting to Know Your Date

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Overview of Rule # 5 of “10 Rules to Survive the Internet Dating Jungle“:

  • Meet your online romance in the flesh within two weeks.
  • When you do meet, go somewhere public; never have a first date pick  you up from your house.
  • Use short meet-n-greets as short, 30 minute coffee dates.
  • If you’re not feeling chemistry, don’t extend the meet-n-greet onto dinner. speeddating2

The fifth rule is all about taking it offline and how to handle the first meet-n-greets. Today I am going to share how to avoid being a bump on a log without being an excessive talker. Take notes!

When going out on first dates it’s important to listen to your date. Sometimes this is easier said than done, especially if you’re a nervous talker. You start getting anxiety and keep talking to cover it up, yet you actually are showing that you are nervous. If you find yourself doing this, stop, take a deep breath and listen. speed-dating

Stop talking and start asking questions, that’s when you start learning about someone else. When you ask a question make sure to fully listen to their answer and not preoccupy yourself with what your response is going to be. Ask about items that will reveal qualities to see if they match what you want in a partner. The last time I went speed-dating I thought I would conduct an experiment to see how many men asked me what I did for a living without me volunteering the information. Only three out of eight guys did. I asked them plenty of questions about themselves that they were happy to tell me. However it’s a two-sided street, not a one-way avenue in getting to know someone. When your date asks you a question, when you are done answering flip it back to them. If you only have six minutes to leave an impression on someone, talking only about yourself that entire time isn’t going to get you far.


Get more Offline dating tips with “10 Rules to Survive the Dating Jungle” today! Now available on Amazon.

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