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HealBrokenHeartWhen a meaningful relationship fails, it feels like our souls have been ripped from our bodies. When experiencing heartache, it becomes nearly impossible to function as a regular human being. So how do you heal your broken heart? The first step is to take time off from life.

Take a vacation; it doesn’t need to be a fancy get-away. You just need an environment that allows you to have time and peace to face your emotions. Make sure you handle all your responsibilities accordingly ahead of time (bills, children, work, etc.) so that when you do take a few days for yourself, you will have no distractions.

When going through a break up it is important to have distractions and surround yourself with positive people. But, first, it is essential that you take the necessary time to be alone so you can let your pain surface and come to terms with it. Keeping busy will only prolong the healing process; you won’t effectively overcome your suffering until you have spent a significant amount of time in your own sanctity to focus solely on yourself.

While on your vacation (whether it be a 2 week cruise or a weekend in a cabin), unplug from the world. This means no TV, no phone, no computer. Don’t even check your Facebook feed. It will all be there when you are ready to come back.

This part can be especially hard for people who are always on the go. At first it might feel a little uncomfortable because we are not used to functioning this way—but it will pay off in the long run.

The process of aligning your heart, mind and soul can, and probably will, be a long and grueling process. But you will become a better, stronger version of yourself after doing it. Being alone will force you to feel your emotions, hear the thoughts you’ve been trying to suppress and ultimately give you the clear perspective you need for the future steps of healing your broken heart.

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is a Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and a Show Host.