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TaraRichterDatingCoach3Once you have decided on a dating website you are comfortable with, it’s time to get your profile together starting with the two most important, and often daunting, parts of online dating websites: the bio and photo.

Your bio section:

Be honest. Nothing is worse than a liar and although you may be able to fool people online about the type of person you are, if you are looking for a real relationship then eventually the truth is going to come out at some point. There’s no point in prolonging the process.

Keep your bio sweet and short—straight to the point. Format it into clear and concise paragraphs. Most people will just scan over this part rather quickly to get a general idea of whether or not you are someone they would be interested in. Don’t bore them.

5 points your bio should cover:

  1. What kind of relationship you’re looking for
  2. What you do for a living
  3. Whether or not you have kids
  4. Your activities/hobbies
  5. A non-neogitable or two that you have (don’t go overboard, but if you know for a fact you absolutely will NOT date a smoker—it’s okay to mention that)

Also, make sure you are being conscious of your tone. For example, don’t be sarcastic. Be yourself, but don’t let the bio section turn into an area where you vent about past relationships or how you believe there are no longer any decent people out there!

Your profile photo:

This is where many people go wrong. Joining a dating website can make you feel vulnerable, like you are putting it all out there. Adding a picture of your face doesn’t help that feeling. But do not try to cut corners in this section because if you are insecure about your looks or try to use a distorted photo, this will only backfire.

Make sure the picture is clear, in focus and UP TO DATE. Do not use a photo of you from 10 years ago. While you may think you look the same, other people may have a very different opinion. If you’re not sure, a safe rule of thumb is use a photo taken within the last six months.

Most of us are a little insecure to at least some degree, but if you are truly committed to meeting someone online, they are going to have to know what you really look like eventually. Why delay the inevitable?

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Tara Richter

Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.