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Man Looking over Wooden FenceWe all know this old saying, yet people have different opinions on it. Some say the grass is always greener on the other side meaning that you are always chasing after something bigger and better and you’re never happy with what you have.  Other people disagree and state that the grass is never greener on the other side.  We should learn to live with what we have and deal with it.

In terms of dating sometimes the grass might be greener on the other side, yet you have to know when to hop over the fence and take that chance. Especially if you are in a current committed relationship. You have to do what’s right and end your relationship before testing out a new one. If you haven’t already had the exclusive talk, then you need to assume both parties are still dating around. However, if you did agree to only see each other, do the right thing & end it. If someone else grabs your attention & you want to test out the new lawn, you can’t fully until you’re uncommitted. It’s not fair to either party to try to start a new relationship with one foot still in the old one. It’s impossible to completely give yourself to the other person & they can sense it.

Additionally, if you were copiously in love with the first person then the second person wouldn’t have been able to pull your focus away. Sometimes in life a better person does come along, yet you have to do the right thing. If you really want to explore a new relationship you must end your current one, be honest, open as to why & be able to reap the consequences of your actions. The newer relationship may not work & your old flame may not ever take you back, but doing the right thing for you will feel good when you’re honest with all parties involved. If you don’t end the current relationship & try to test out the waters with the new person, that’s called cheating & no one likes a cheater. Feelings will get hurt; bigger messes will get made that you can’t clean up because you were trying to protect your heart by not fully giving it to one or the other person. Sometimes you have to live life on a whim & a prayer by putting yourself out there 100%. Open yourself up to possible failure/ rejection or hopefully everlasting true love. People who live life always protecting their hearts will never experience the joys of finding that “can’t live without you” love. You have to take big risks in life to harvest great rewards.

As author Robert Fulghum stated, “The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. No, not at all. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences, carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you are.”

Tara Richter
Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.