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Just like church and state are separate, so should your dating life and work environment. When interacting with persons from internet dating sites there comes a time when they ask for a personal email. Seems fairly innocent, yet you really don’t know this human form on the other end of the high speed optic fiber. They could turn out to be a crazy stalker.

It’s better to create a separate free email account with yahoo or gmail to send your cyber dates to. Just in case someone goes postal you can easily delete the account and move on. If you were conversing via your work email, then it gets messy. You can’t just up and leave your job.

True story that happened to me:

About 13 years ago I dated a guy I met on some website for three weeks. We conversed during the day through my work email where I was a loan processor for a mortgage company back in Nebraska. This was way before iPhones , FB or email scams from Nigeria. Nobody thought of protecting / hiding your email address.
During the day, I would forward funny joke emails to all my friends, family, coworkers and the guy I was dating via work account. One day I discovered he took all my contacts from those emails and starting spamming everyone (including my mom) with some crappy junk mail. When I confronted him he denied it, I dumped him a week later due to more strange events. To get revenge on me he starting spamming my work email with porn sites. Signing me up for everything X rated he could find. It overloaded my inbox and corrupted my computer. I was forced to explain the entire situation to the president of my company. The loan officers never let me live that one down.

Avoid an uncomfortable situation with you work place, be smart, create an email account just for dating.

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.