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Being a love addict is just like any other addict. It has the same characteristics as if you were a drug addict, though the heroine is the person. Love addicts have similar qualities to co-dependency. They really go hand-in-hand. Though love addicts have a hard time coming off their drug if the other person leaves. Stalking them, threatening them and other crazy behaviors. Unfortunately this is where some of the domestic violence comes into play. If they can’t be with that person they won’t allow them to be with anyone else.

The good thing is even if you are a love addict or the person your dating is, there is a cure. It’s not easy, but with any addiction knowing that you are one is half the battle. The other half is coping with it so you catch yourself when you start to stumble down that slippery slope.

Take this quiz below to find out if you or someone you are dating is a love addict. Answer either yes or no to the questions.

  1. Are you very needy when it comes to relationships?
  2. Do you fall in love very easily and too quickly?
  3. When you fall in love, are you lost in your head thinking/ fantasizing about them all the time?
  4. When you are lonely and looking for companionship, do you lower your standards and settle for less than you want or deserve?
  5. When you are in a relationship, do you tend to smother your partner?
  6. More than once, have you gotten involved with someone who is unable to commit—hoping he or she will change?
  7. Once you have bonded with someone, you can’t let go?
  8. When you are attracted to someone, do you ignore all the warning signs that this person is not good for you?
  9. Is initial attraction more important to you than anything else when it comes to falling in love and choosing a partner? Falling in love over time does not appeal to you and is not an option.
  10. When you are in love, do you trust people who are not trustworthy?
  11. When a relationship ends, have you felt your life is over and more than once you have thought about suicide because of a failed relationship?
  12. Do you take on more than your share of responsibility for the survival of a relationship/ over functioning?
  13. Is love and relationships the only things that interest you?
  14. Were you the only one in love in your relationships?
  15. Are you overwhelmed with loneliness when you are not in love or in a relationship?
  16. More than once, have you gotten involved with the wrong person to avoid being lonely?
  17. Are you terrified of never finding someone to love or spend the rest of your life with?
  18. Do you feel inadequate if you are not in a relationship?
  19. Can you never say no when you are in love or if your partner threatens to leave you?
  20. Do you try very hard to be who your partner wants you to be?  Will you do anything to please him or her—even abandon yourself (sacrifice what you want, need and value)?
  21. When you are in love, do you only see what you want to see? You distort reality to quell anxiety and feed your fantasies.
  22. Do you have a high tolerance for suffering in relationships? You are willing to suffer neglect, depression, loneliness, dishonesty—even abuse—to avoid the pain of separation anxiety (what you feel when you are not with someone you have bonded with).
  23. Do you love romance, having had more than one romantic interest at a time even when it involved dishonesty?
  24. Have you stayed with an abusive person?
  25. Do you have fantasies about someone you love, even if he or she is unavailable? Are they more important to you than meeting someone who is available?
  26. Are you terrified of being abandoned, even the slightest rejection feels like abandonment and it makes you feel horrible?
  27. Have you chased after people who have rejected you and try desperately to change their minds?
  28. When you are in love, are you overly possessive and jealous?
  29. More than once, have you neglected family or friends because of your relationship?
  30. Do you feel an overwhelming need to check up on someone you are in love with?
  31. Do you feel powerless when you fall in love—as if you are in some kind of trance or under a spell?

If you answered yes to more than 5 of these questions, you most likely are addicted to love. The good thing is there are resources out there to help you. Read my next blog to see how to break the binding bonds of the love addiction.

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.