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If you’ve been out on three dates with the same person and you’re just not sure if you’re feeling it, move on. It shouldn’t take that long to discover if you’re attracted to someone or not. Sure they maybe witty, charming, nice, sweet, yet if you’re just not convinced they’re the one for you, move on. There’s no point in continuing to date someone if the chemistry isn’t there. They maybe the sweetest guy in the world or the nicest girl, but if it doesn’t get your engines going by now it probably won’t ever.

Don’t try so hard to make it work. The more time you spend with Mr. Wrong is the less time you have to find Mr. Right. After three dates neither party should be too emotionally invested. It’s easier to break it off now versus dragging it out longer and breaking hearts. If you’re not sure by date three, be polite and let them know they’re just not the one for you. You should be 100% into someone to keep dating them. Be courteous and hopefully you can still gain a friendship. Never burn bridges or drag it out to the point where you just can’t stand the sight of the other person.

Even if the guy/ girl is totally into you make sure the feeling is mutual. You don’t have to stay in a relationship just to please them. I’m sure they’ll be a little bit sad, but more grateful if you’re up front and honest with them. I really think people value the truth. Just make sure you can be honest with yourself. As an attractive person you can have many people pursue you, just because they are doesn’t mean you have to date all of them. Hold out for the one who makes you just as happy as you make them.

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.