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When going out on first dates sometimes you’ll come across someone who lives 30-40 some miles away from you. If you live in a densely populated area, like Tampa Bay, there are a few million people within a small area, plenty of opportunity to meet new people. Though, traffic can make even the shortest of distances take almost an hour.

Be conscious of how far someone is going to drive to meet you and vice versa. With work schedules and traffic patterns going to meet someone for a short meet n’ greet could take up to two hours round trip in traffic.

The courteous thing to do is meet half way. It would be irritating to drive an hour to meet someone to only find out they don’t look like their photos or there’s no connection. At least meeting somewhere in-between is fair to both people.

If there is a connection and more follow up dates then each person should take turns going to the other person’s part of town. If you feel you find yourself stuck with a person who never wants to leave their comfort zone or drive the hour to see you, move on. It’s not fair especially if you’re the one always doing the driving. How do you know if they really like you if you’re always putting forth the effort? It makes it easy on them. Hey, I’ll hang out with her because I’m bored and she’s here.

If a guy is really into you he will move mountains, swim across oceans, or jump over skyscrapers to see you. If he’s always making you go the distance, stop. See if he comes to you. If he does then you know he wants to spend time with you. If he doesn’t then your relationship was more of a convenience.  Hold out for the guy who would do anything just to be by your side.

Tara Richter

Tara Richter is an Internet Dating Coach in Tampa Bay. She is the author of “The Dating Jungle Series” and an Internet TV Show Host.